Sexiness is underrated, kissing is overrated

I was reading a friends email regarding her date with this dude she has been seeing but that she was not really into (one of those, he's nice, smart, polite, clean....but "I don't want to beast him").

As she was describing the "dude" making his move, my eyes came across this line:
"I decided hey- might as well make out with him. I thought that perhaps my feelings would change with a little bit of action. Alas, that was not to be. While not a thoroughly bad kisser, he was nothing exceptional, and definitely nothing passionate."

There lies one of the great misconception of the dating world: great kissers.
Of course, you may run across a few awful kissers who will slurp all over your face or someone so tensed that it feels like kissing a corpse, but don't expect a first kiss to make you fall in love with someone you are only moderately attracted to because kissing is overrated.

My researches show that 92.5% of what constitutes a great kiss has to do with your feeling towards the person just before you make out (within a 2.5% interval 19 times out of 20), not the actual moves he pulls out with his tongue and lips.

Unfortunately, as we get older, as the total number of people we have kissed keeps going up, as we get more sarcastic at our chances of meeting the perfect partner, and as we start caring more and more about other stuff (job, money, cars, kids, age, new couch, size of our ass/pectorals, carbon footprints,...) we get more and more cautious at everything and we refuse the excitement that we may feel towards someone we barely know; and therefore: we negate the sexiness of the first kiss (sobbing).

Dr Love believes that kisses are best enjoyed: hidden behind a friends house, in the laudry room of a building during a party, or on the corner of an empty street during a snow storm. What makes for a divine first kiss is the irresistible desire to grab someone, the feeling we get when we look at each other and the quenching feel you get when you make out for the first time; so strong that it makes you oblivious to what the other is actually doing to your mouth (whether it is a soft and tender kiss on the lips or the passionate removal of your old fillings).

The Dr's recipe for a great first kiss: It starts with someone you are crazy about (even if he may not end up being the perfect man/mecanic/housecleaner/dad/listener/boyscout/swim teacher/or for parallel parking), then you allow yourself to truly get touch by the person, you do not over-analyse the situation and you let your passion for someone take control of yourself.
Enjoy.

Disclaimer: Dr Love is french and therefore, a naturally good kisser (it is in the genes).

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